Should I warn this person?
I sit by two of my fellow eighth graders in english class. Both of them are on the baseball team. I dont want to say their names over and over, so i’ll call them mike and steve. mike is the most fit person in our grade, and the best at sports. steve is good at sports, but has a big mouth. I kinda like mike better, though don’t talk to either.
At lunch on monday, mike was talking about how he could beat up three people at once. After lunch, they fight. the other person swings at mike, and misses. Mike then just punches him as hard as he can.
Both of them got suspended, but over the past two days, steve has been talking to one of the boys theat almost fought mike. Steve is telling him that mike’s too arrogant and cocky, and he wants the other boy to just walk up tio mike on the day he gets back, friday, and just punch him in the face. since the baseball coach said that mike will be kicked off the team if he gets into one more fight, steve wants the boy to catch mike off guard, and mike will probobly just retailiate without thinking.
Personally, I don’t think it’s fair. The boy steve’s been talking to gets in fights all the time, and has already agreed to do it. I feel like someone should warn mike. But I’m afraid that if I do it, and people find out, they will make my final four years of school a living hell. I know mike should get a heads up, but should I tell him? What should I do?
Tags: Baseball Coach, Baseball Team, Eighth Graders, Fit, Swings
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he sounds like he can handle himself
he sounds like he can handle himself
yes tell its good to warn them and just say u herd it from someone else so u dont get hurt
yes tell its good to warn them and just say u herd it from someone else so u dont get hurt
Just tell him that two people are plotting to kick is butt. Otherwise, stay out of it.
Just tell him that two people are plotting to kick is butt. Otherwise, stay out of it.
I think you should tell him. Or leave some kind of anonymous note/email. But if you tell him in person, you should let him know that you don’t want people to know that you told him. Y’know, you seem like a really nice person.. x] I’m in 8th grade, too.. we don’t have a baseball team or much fights.
I think you should tell him. Or leave some kind of anonymous note/email. But if you tell him in person, you should let him know that you don’t want people to know that you told him. Y’know, you seem like a really nice person.. x] I’m in 8th grade, too.. we don’t have a baseball team or much fights.
It’s not your problem but you could write a note to “Mike”. Just change the hand writting( pretend to be a girl).I think it’s nice how you care about other people.Good luck.
It’s not your problem but you could write a note to “Mike”. Just change the hand writting( pretend to be a girl).I think it’s nice how you care about other people.Good luck.
You should do what feels right to you and from the sounds of this post you already know what feels right now you just need to find a way to tell Mike. I like the ones where they are telling you to do it in a note.
You should do what feels right to you and from the sounds of this post you already know what feels right now you just need to find a way to tell Mike. I like the ones where they are telling you to do it in a note.
It’s not your business. If you just really feel the need to inform someone (which I don’t think is a good idea) tell a teacher in privacy and let them handle the situation. I know when we are younger we think each situation is ‘the’ situation but when you get older you realize that this same situation will probably happen several times over during the next 4 years. Probably with different people and the situation may vary somewhat but…welcome to high school!
It’s not your business. If you just really feel the need to inform someone (which I don’t think is a good idea) tell a teacher in privacy and let them handle the situation. I know when we are younger we think each situation is ‘the’ situation but when you get older you realize that this same situation will probably happen several times over during the next 4 years. Probably with different people and the situation may vary somewhat but…welcome to high school!
just tell him not to mention that you warned him. How is anyone gonna know that he was tipped off just cause he didn’t hit the dude back? they know he has his space on the baseball team to worry about, so they will probably just assume he didn’t want to take the risk. and even if he is hot headed, it’s very likely that a guy who’s about to loose something would develop more self restraint. Also, he could block the punch, which wouldn’t be that unlikely if he is a good fighter, and no-one would know he was tipped off either. Or, he could try to stay physically far away from the guy, but that might set off some red flags, but even then, who’s gonna know it was you unless he tells them, which I don’t think he would after you tried to help him out, or if one of your classmates see’s this question, and thinks it might be about their school, and if your name is actually Devin, they will know it was you who warned him. But I say you should stand up for what you believe in. I doubt people will hate you for 4 years over it, and even if many do, it’s not going to be everyone. You will still have some friends, and those will be truer friends than ones who turned their backs on you for doing a nice thing for someone, regardless of what kind of person he is. Children often become the way they are because of their environments and the people in their lives. Often there aggression is a defense mechanism. My point being, no matter what any one thinks of this kid he is not a monster, and he deserves to be warned about something like this. Maybe your kindness will help him change? unlikely really, but it could be a small step. If it’s really unbearable, switch schools, I did it 3 times to avoid bullying. It’s not the worst thing in the world, cause you are going to eventually grow apart from most of your middle and high school friends anyway, that’s just what happens.
Bottom line though, is do what you feel comfortable doing. Don’t force yourself to warn him out of some feeling of obligation, if you have a serious/legitimate fear of retribution.
-good luck
just tell him not to mention that you warned him. How is anyone gonna know that he was tipped off just cause he didn’t hit the dude back? they know he has his space on the baseball team to worry about, so they will probably just assume he didn’t want to take the risk. and even if he is hot headed, it’s very likely that a guy who’s about to loose something would develop more self restraint. Also, he could block the punch, which wouldn’t be that unlikely if he is a good fighter, and no-one would know he was tipped off either. Or, he could try to stay physically far away from the guy, but that might set off some red flags, but even then, who’s gonna know it was you unless he tells them, which I don’t think he would after you tried to help him out, or if one of your classmates see’s this question, and thinks it might be about their school, and if your name is actually Devin, they will know it was you who warned him. But I say you should stand up for what you believe in. I doubt people will hate you for 4 years over it, and even if many do, it’s not going to be everyone. You will still have some friends, and those will be truer friends than ones who turned their backs on you for doing a nice thing for someone, regardless of what kind of person he is. Children often become the way they are because of their environments and the people in their lives. Often there aggression is a defense mechanism. My point being, no matter what any one thinks of this kid he is not a monster, and he deserves to be warned about something like this. Maybe your kindness will help him change? unlikely really, but it could be a small step. If it’s really unbearable, switch schools, I did it 3 times to avoid bullying. It’s not the worst thing in the world, cause you are going to eventually grow apart from most of your middle and high school friends anyway, that’s just what happens.
Bottom line though, is do what you feel comfortable doing. Don’t force yourself to warn him out of some feeling of obligation, if you have a serious/legitimate fear of retribution.
-good luck